Dr. Sarah Hensley
The Love Doc

Attachment Awakening I have had such an awakening since listening to the podcast. Awareness not being enough, capacity vs “if they wanted to they would”. It really makes sense now. I had put so much work into research and learning but I never had the tools to implement for any lasting change. Dr. Hensley really makes it easy to understand. I can’t thank her enough.

Stuck I have been "stuck" for months on what to do in my current situation, the back and forth has been torture and not knowing how to come to a starting point has been exhausting. Amy listened to my chaos and without "telling me what to do" (even though I really just want someone to tell me what to do lol) she gave me a suggestion on a strategy that made sense, took pressure off and left me feeling confident in tackling the next steps. I finally felt a sense of relief after just our first session that I hadn't felt in months! I can't wait for our next session so I can update her and keep moving forward in my healing journey. Thank you Amy!!

Coach amy Amy was compassionate, great listener and had solid advice

Thank you so much 💖 Hello Dr Hensley, I'm from Belgium and I have been binge-watching all of your content on FB and listening to all of your podcasts the last couple of months 😻 I listen to you daily, you're such an important part of my healing journey. You literally changed my life and brought me closer to God 🙏🏻💖 I started praying again and doing the work on myself after a really painful heartbreak. Thank you so much for your wise knowledge and your spirituality. I don't know you but I love you so much 💖 How you stayed gracious and grounded in your own battles lately, you're such an example.

God bless you for opening our eyes, saving lives by bringing us closer to God and helping all those people and couples as you do 💖 Also a shoutout to Raina, you guys are such a cool duo. Lots of love and keep healing the world with your beautiful soul 💖

Life Changer! Public testimonial: Oklahomans in the buckle of the bible belt here, and just about every marriage counselor in our state is Christian - BUT none of them are as educated as Dr. Hensley! She provides the Christian perspective with a scientific foundation. This makes the information more solid and usable rather than the "just because it's the right thing to do" or the "this scripture says so" approach. Dr. Hensley is respectful of her clients' time, always coaching from minute to minute, keeping the calls on time- never late, long or shorted. She packs in a ton of coaching, so be prepared to feel like you're drinking from a fire hydrant! We are so thankful she gives you lifetime recording of the zoom calls for future review. The client portal is very user friendly, easy to navigate, and we never experienced any technical issues with the modules or session recordings.

3 Suggestions for Dr. Hensley: (1) You should look into upgrading your wifi quality/equipment. A couple times on our zoom calls, your connection dipped out and the uploaded recordings have silence in those spots as well. One of those times was during my question, so I never heard your full answer. (2) During Session 1, you taught us how we could send questions privately to you through your chat box, but when I did this in later courses, they were not seen. The public chat box was the only one being read. (3) I'm sure this request is disliked by most, but we would've liked the course to be extended out to 8 weeks, instead of 4, with zoom calls being every other week. It felt to us that by the time a session was over, we had to immediately start on the modules for the next session and didn't have time to work on what we had just learned. The entire month felt like my partner and I were drowning, barely keeping up. Especially true for families with young children- it's very hard to keep up with the speed of the course!

Amazing experience I just finished the hybrid program and learned so much. Dr Hensley is truly amazing. Her knowledge about attachment styles, as well as the course materials, were so incredibly helpful. I truly believe God put her in my path so I can start a new journey of healing in a way Ive never done before. Do yourself a favor - take the course!

Relationship Counseling and Attachment Styles I just finished the 4 week session with Sarah and my only regret is that it is over. What a fantastic coaching course. All the course material and videos exceeded my expectations and then the actual live sessions were an impossible notch above what I had already experienced. Sarah is a gifted presented and shares her knowledge without any reservation and is genuine in her belief that this program can help us all be better people which will make us better partners. Thank you Sarah for all you shared it has been life changing for me.

4 Week Course Dr. Hensley's course provided tools for assessing my attachment style and direction to move toward being secure. Well worth my time and investment.

Thank you!!! You are amazing! Oh Sarah Hensley, I am changing my life due to your post that led me to your podcast. I have been in a marriage to a narcissist, not officially diagnosed because nothing is wrong with him, for 6 years. I have been depressed, thinking everything is my fault. If I just change this one thing he will finally be happy. Which I feel crazy even saying that. Once my child started having a major reaction to this man, I listened.
Now after listening to you for about 6 months, I am leaving the situation. I am working on me. I am trying to heal the childhood trauma wounds. I am terrified. I have no clue how I will make it but I know God has me in his arms.
Thank you for what you do! Thank you for sharing your experiences and traumas! Thank you for being real and relatable.
Once I can get out of this man’s house, and get on my own two feet; I will be signing up for your classes. I never knew how much I needed you, your insights, your knowledge but I am so glad you ended up on my FYP. Please say prayers for me as I venture off into this new world. I am scared but so ready. What could be worse than this?
Thank you for your input, as well, Raina! Keep going ladies because you are changing the world! Thank you for what you do from my whole heart! ❤️

DA wife and FA husband trying to stay together This is my testimony of our lives BEFORE taking Dr. Sara’s course with my wife. Without getting into the weeds to much. I am an “FA” and my wife is a “DA”. We both have childhood trauma. We couldn’t be more text book DA and FA. Her parents are still together and mine are not. My dad abandoned my mom and my sister and I for another woman when I was 5/6 years old. He never picked us up on his weekends. My mom had issues with drugs and alcohol until she was well into her 40’s. My wife’s parents don’t do feelings, not at all. My wife and I have been together for 15 years and have two children together and she had two daughters from a previous relationship. My step daughters where 4 and 7 years only when we moved in together so I’ve been there pretty much there whole lives. We have two children together that are 13 and 7 now and we’ve been having issues needless to say. I open my heart to her only to have it kicked around like a soccer ball. lol. But really, she runs away and shuts down when I try feelings with her. I just want to have that connection that I need to feel secure and she feels attacked and belittled by my feelings so I shut down. It’s a vicious cycle that has us in the beginning stages of divorce. She filed. We have been apart for almost two months now and have been communicating better than we ever did apart and I’m assuming it’s because she feels less pressured. We’re all but divorced now until we started watching and sharing Doctor Sara’s content online. When we watch the “FA/DA” stuff together for the first time, we both broke down in tears. We couldn’t believe that someone understood what was happening to us. Fact of the matter is, we love each other very much, we’re are both just at the end of our ropes. I do have some good news! We’re now working towards reconciliation because of YOU! Your “carline” shorts have helped us understand each other and now I am getting ready to sign us up for as many classes as we need to figure this all out. I can’t wait to do our “After Testimonial”! This is going to be AMAZING!! I am So Thankful we found your content through all the crap on social media that these “relationship coaches” have out there. 99.999% of them are so full of poop it’s not even funny. Most of them are making a lot of money doing a whole lot of nothing. Dr. Sara stands out from the crowd because of how articulate she is and the fact that she actually breaks down these attachment categories so well, it makes everyone else look foolish. So thank you again Dr Sara! Can’t wait to get signed up and started with my wife. I hope I can find a whole Family Unit class! Our children need it as bad as we do. They’ve seen it all and I’m sure it’s going to cause issues for them down the road. That’s really what hurts. Watching them suffer because mom and dad are suffering. THE END!

Highly Recommend! Attachment therapy has helped me understand my own dysfunctional behavior in relationships and has given me the tools to change. I spent years in individual talk therapy and couples therapy without much improvement and although I felt temporary relief discussing my issues, I never felt like I got to the root of the problem and therefore the toxic patterns would repeat. I now have a deep understanding of my triggers and behaviors as well as practical tools to move towards becoming securely attached.

Hybrid Coaching Course This was a very informative, efficient, and helpful course. I love the online format for learning. I finally understand the why behind some of my behaviors and I appreciate the practical ways to help become secure.

I thank God every single day for Sarah. Sarah rescued me from a trauma bond that I had been trapped in for over a decade. On January 30, 2024, I sought help from Sarah because I was in a toxic and abusive cycle. Sarah guided and educated me about the dynamics of this type of relationship. She also supported me through the process of cutting off contact with the abusive person and helped me get a permanent court order to protect me and my family.

Sarah...

I don’t know if you remember me, but I thank God for you every day. I honestly can’t thank you enough for starting my journey toward recovery from my trauma bond. If it hadn't begun with you, I honestly don’t know if I would be here today.

I’ve been no contact with my abuser for almost two years now. I remember when you told me that breaking the addiction to a trauma bond would be as hard as breaking an addiction to heroin—I thought you were crazy at the time. But now, looking back, I truly understand. I want you to know how thankful I am for you, personally. Thank you for testifying for me in court and for the letter. I truly believe I wouldn’t be here without your support.

Because of your help, I’m now coaching survivors in Utah at a place called Passion Community Center. I’m finally sharing my story and helping others find their way to healing. Thank you for everything you’ve done—and for all the work you continue to do.

Hybrid coaching As a disabled veteran (100%) Dr. Hensley's dedication to veterans is amazing. The hybrid coaching along with her podcast, her tic-toks have helped me so much. Unfortunately I didn't find her soon enough to save my marriage but I KNOW things now that will help keep me secure in the future. She is so caring and compassionate, I can't say enough good things about her approach to helping. Thank you for your classes, and the LIFE LONG ACCESS to the material. JUST AMAZING

Thank you For the past few months I have attentively followed you to learn more about attachment styles. I recently let my DA go… it is better for both of us. Although I wish her well, I would have never done it without receiving the information you put out online.

Thank you… I can now move forward.

Jum

Amazing program. Worth every penny! My partner and I learned so much about our attachment styles and my attachment trauma through Dr. Hensley‘s course. From watching her social media content, we had figured out I was very likely a dismissive avoidant, mostly living in my sympathetic nervous system in a state of freeze. I learned that I emotionally suppress, and “deactivate” in relationships. As a 44-year-old never married woman, this course helped me understand myself so much better. My boyfriend says I’m a completely different person (in our relationship) after just six weeks of Dr. Hensley‘s program. I am now able to describe my thought world to him and emotionally process in real time, instead of stuffing my emotions and dealing with them days or weeks later (or never). I’m definitely still a work in progress, but I’m so grateful to have found this course. I wish the whole world could take this course because being in relationship is one of the most challenging parts of our human experience. Thank you Dr. Hensley for creating this content! You’re doing God’s work to help humanity!

Hybrid group I'm a former Fearful avoidant. I've experienced so much pain, been so dysfunctional and was always dysregulated. For every one considering taking Dr. Sarahs course, do it!! It was the best 899$ spent of my life. The inner peace you experience. You get the tools and they work so well.
Dr. Sarah is the most wonderful & competent psychologist. Thank you

Amazing Sarah is so full of knowledge and does an AMAZING job at teaching you the tools needed to earn your attachment security. It's hard work, but worth the journey. I truly appreciate everything she has taught me, and will continue to use her tools daily until I get there. Thank you so much for all you do!

Five Stars: Highly Recommend! Sarah's course is truly life changing. She not only educates, but gives real life and realistic tools to transform from insecure attachment to secure. I know I have a long journey ahead of me to practice and reinforce my secure behavior but I am confident that I can use her practical tools to get there, and have already seen so much change in myself in a few short weeks. I have so much hope and believe in myself to truly transform. The goal isn't perfection but awareness and redirecting/reframing when triggers happen.

Amazing I highly recommend her! She is practical, intelligent and brings real life applications to the situations of life. This has been life changing and brought me a level of freedom that I needed.

Becoming securely attached Sarah's course covers so many important areas about the best way to shift towards becoming securely attached - it helped me make so much sense of what I recently experienced and I can confidently state that I am becoming a better man thanks to the information she shares with it. I am excited to get to speak 1:1 and in the meantime I am giving the course another pass, making sure to practice more of the activities she shares in the various modules as I deeply appreciate the difference each method makes for my overall wellbeing. I am so thankful for a dear female friend of mine who pointed me in this direction - it has made an amazing difference for the better during a challenging part of my life.

Dr Sarah holds the key to attachment security! I did individual coaching and the hybrid group coaching with Dr Sarah and I can absolutely hands down attest to the fact that it was the most enlightening, informative and transformative experience I've had in my adult life. After going through 35 years of therapy (I'm 40 now), I have actually never truly understood my attachment style AND learned the tools to change it. The group coaching was incredible and taught me skills to regulate my nervous system in a way that was easy to understand and implement, and the individual coaching was just as integrative. Dr Sarah is one of those unique psychologists/experts who GENUINELY cares. If you want to transform your life and relationship, and find inner peace, Dr Sarah has the golden keys to the castle. Do her group or individual coaching; it'll be the best gift you could ever give to yourself!

Life Changing This online course was life changing for me. Knowing that my partner and I were stuck in a "loop of doom" due to our attachment styles was not enough to help us get out of it. Sarah's step by step processes, information, guidance, and anecdotal conversations opened a whole new process for us. Sarah shared real life experiences with us that gave us not only the feeling that we were not alone in our disfunction but also that there was hope that we could heal ourselves and our relationship! She does not sugar coat the process. Repeatedly tells us that it will take commitment, time and effort, and also reassures us that it is completely worth it. My partner and I both found her to be real, honest, compassionate, relatable, informative and willing to go out of her way to really speak to our individual issues and questions. Totally worth it!

REGULATING THE NERVOUS SYTEM AND LIVING WITH CLARITY AND CERTAINTY! Dr Hensley (Coach Sarah) has changed my life in effectively and efficiently coaching me to build skills that significantly increase my ability to manage unnecessary relationship stress and eliminate ineffective communication in my most crucial relationships. Her coaching streamlines countless sessions common in most therapy / counseling. Instead, Coach Sarah teaches simple and easy to learn - yet PROFOUND and effective problem-solving techniques as they relate to controlling our thoughts, emotions, and conflict resolution. Her protocols are so effective and produce immediate results, that you are inspired with increase confidence and CLARITY! She is so gifted as a coach that even when presented with a new approach to dealing with old habits, I found that I was decisively onboard with all of her methodologies and strategies. Lastly, as a veteran, law enforcement officer, husband, father, and leader, I believe EVERY man that is looking to increase skill in self-regulating how he responds to and manages relationship chaos should take her coaching! It will forever change their life and the lives of those they love most as a result.

Highly recommend If there was an option for 10 stars I’d give her a 10!! Sarah has played a major role in the 180 degree turn in my marriage! Learning about our attachment styles has helped us have more understanding, compassion and knowledge of each other. Sarah has given us the keys to the Kingdom and my husband and I have never been in a better place than we are now in our 16 years of marriage. I have had bad experiences with counseling/coaching and I’ve been so skeptical. Sarah doesn’t spend your session being a mediator but rather a coach with tools and the best part is, it’s not a life long commitment. She gives you the tools and when you implement them, they work and you don’t need to continue paying and scheduling. I highly recommend!

Attachment Style Coaching My husband and I got more out of four weeks of Dr. Hensley's attachment coaching course than we did out of literal years of couples and individual therapy. Despite both giving our best efforts in therapy, we never felt that we made meaningful progress. This course succeeds where sometimes therapy can fail because it teaches invaluable skills and gives a concrete plan of action. Dr. Hensley gives a thorough explanation of each attachment style so partners can better understand themselves and each other, but the real magic is in learning the *how* of communication. For the first time in a long time, we both feel true hope that we can resolve some longstanding roadblocks using Dr. Hensley's framework. It will take commitment and practice, but this course teaches the way to get out of your head and into your body so you can truly hear and be heard. We are thrilled we made the investment in our marriage, and are very grateful for Dr. Hensley and her work.

Group coaching is amazing! Dr. Hensley literally teaches you how to EXECUTE attachment security. I learned that understanding is NOT the key to change. All therapy gave me was understanding. I still didn't have capacity to be a good partner during conflict. I would yell and shut down. I struggled to apologize, and it would take me days to get over a small conflict. I'm a true FA! When my DA partner would not answer my texts or pleas for resolution--I would get super anxious. Now, my partner and I can work out any conflict in about 10 minutes using the conflict resolution plan Dr. Hensley provides her in group coaching. It prevents defensiveness and blame shifting, and it forces us to actually LISTEN and understand each other and focus forward on a specific resolution. We no longer fight over who is right. PEACE for the first time in our marriage! Thank you Dr. Hensley!

A transforming and pivotal experience Discovering that my struggles are not unique and that there's a shared experience among individuals with similar attachment styles has been a profound revelation for me. It's shifted my perception, transforming the loneliness I once felt into a connection with a community facing similar challenges. This newfound understanding has allowed me to approach my situation with greater empathy, not only towards myself but also towards my partner.

The concept of attachment styles, previously unfamiliar to both my partner and me, has become a cornerstone in our journey. The coaching sessions have been instrumental in broadening our knowledge and introducing us to invaluable tools and techniques. Together, we're navigating uncharted territories, armed with insights that not only strengthen our bond but also foster personal growth.

Successful approach I’ve been to individual and couples counseling in the past but attachment theory really resonated with me. I actually guessed my own attachment style incorrectly before coaching with Sarah. I’ve gained skills to regulate my own thoughts and nervous system. My ex coached with Sarah individually as well. While neither of us are ‘cured’ we both have a new understanding of ourselves and each other. There’s nothing better than a partner who truly wants to understand you. We are back together with more insight and tools to move forward and manage our inevitable triggers. I am continuing to coach with Sarah so I don’t relapse into old patterns.

I was hesitant reaching out to a stranger from the internet, but I resonated with what I heard. The love of my life wanted a divorce and everything I was doing was solidifying her position. I made my appointment online and it couldn't come fast enough. At first, I was just happy to have someone listen. Dr. Sarah understood me, AND she seemed to understand my wife as well. Dr. Sarah's advice made sense, but it wasn't easy. I failed more than once, but Dr. Sarah's grace and direction put me back on track. Each meeting I scheduled couldn't come fast enough until things started clicking - for me AND my relationship. Today, at 57 years old, I'm in a better place both personally and relationally than I ever have been. My wife and I just celebrated our ten year anniversary and we couldn't be happier. Thank You from the bottom of my heart!!!